Self-Importance

     A recurring topic I find bouncing around in my cold-ridden head today is self-importance. Something very admirable in people is their sense of belonging and their ability to understand and demonstrate their strengths. Too often, in my opinion, people seem to be too afraid to put their deserved value in themselves in fear of being viewed as self-righteous, or a product of low self-esteem. Everyone has so much to offer and it would be quite amazing to see everyone embrace that fact, and not see them hide away their true colors or hold back a great idea because they don’t think it’s good enough. You are your biggest critic! 
     This is a topic that hits close to home because through all of my childhood up until college, I was a very introverted guy. I struggled with self-esteem issues, as practically everyone does in that period of their lives, and I thought that I was bottom tier and that I wasn’t even good enough to identify myself as anyone who fit the standards of my high school. I was too lazy for the smart kids, too uncoordinated for the sporty kids, and too shy to do any sort of extra-curricular activities and I failed miserably at the few I tried. I felt sorry for myself for the majority of my life, up until about 2010, and that was when I realized all this time I was being selfish. One day it hit me like a ton of bricks…shyness is a form of selfishness. Think about that for a second: When you are shy you are constantly thinking about you, you, you. What will they think of me? What if I mess up? What if I’m not good enough? So you withdraw yourself from your surroundings and instead of even trying anything, you stand back and watch everything pass you by. Pulled off to the side of the road, emergency lights on, letting everyone else speed by you. Staying in the same place you have ever been and ever will be while everyone else is progressing and bettering themselves. Not giving yourself the chance to try anything new.
      I find that people wrongly accuse others of being full of themselves, when in fact many times in my experience, the accused is confident in their abilities, no matter what they may be, and willing to display that confidence. Now don’t get me wrong, there is a difference between displaying confidence and walking around with your nose in the air, snubbing everyone else. I think what it boils down to is respect. Respect for not only yourself, but for others around you as well…and that makes all the difference.
     I’m certainly not writing this in an attempt to berate introverts, it’s never my intention to bring anyone down, especially through my writing. I just feel as though many people who identify themselves as introverts are holding something back from the rest of the world and can potentially make a huge difference in many peoples lives if they open up a little more. 
     Internal strength and confidence are the most magnetic traits anyone can have in my opinion, so let loose and be yourself…because you have plenty to offer the people around you. Show your strengths, and don’t be afraid of judgement! A smile and a compliment make a lasting impression on anyones day. You can do AMAZING things once you believe you have the capability to do so.                               Image

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