Confession time: I absolutely cannot stand people who constantly complain! Whether it’s personal, work-related or what have you, it’s never anything that anyone wants to hear. There are two different types of complaints: Personal and Non-Personal. Personal complaints are those which you direct towards yourself, the things that, for the most part, you can change. Non-Personal complaints are those directed externally that have nothing to do with you or your well-being. You’re wasting your time complaining about anything, but some things are just pointless to worry about.
I feel like this generation has been coddled. For the most part, we have been raised to treat others the way we would like to be treated and to not hurt anyone’s feelings. While rules like these are great, I feel like we have taken them to an extreme. People are less apt to tell you the truth because they are worried about hurting your feelings, even if the truth is something you need to hear. I say this in relation to personal complaints and self-degradation. If someone comes up to me and says, “I’m so fat”, I am very likely to say something along the lines of, “Well, if you feel that way, identify areas in your daily routine that would promote weight gain and replace them with physical activity and proper diet.” Of course, I’m a much better writer than I am speaker, so that wouldn’t come out nearly as eloquently, but the point would still get across…hopefully. Does this make me a jerk? If you ask our generation of over-protected, sensitive people, yes. It seems to be no longer acceptable to offer advice, even if it is said with the best of intentions. Don’t focus on the negatives about yourself, identify your strengths and rock them. Never forget areas where you can improve, however. If you are unhappy about yourself in any way and you can change that, stop talking and start doing!
The other form of complaints as I mentioned before, are non-personal. Truthfully, these are the complaints that are most destructive to your mental health and even those around you. If you don’t like something in your life, that is your problem. That involves no one else but you and is no one else’s responsibility to change. If you do not appreciate someone else’s presence, leave if you must. There is no need to put your dislike onto anyone else and make a situation out of it. Focus less on what others should change about themselves and instead, assess your own reasoning behind your opinions and decide whether or not the problem lies within yourself because odds are it does.
If it doesn’t make you smile, there is no need to dwell on it! Put some positive action in your life.