What’s up people? I hope everyone had a great Christmas and got to spend a lot of time with friends and family. With 2013 coming to an end, I hope everyone takes the time to identify ways to make 2014 even better. I am bound and determined to make 2014 the best year I’ve ever had. Writing is something that I’ve always loved doing and something I’ve always had a knack for so I am extremely happy I now have this as a medium to both express myself and improve on my passion. I’d also like to take this time to thank you all for taking the time out of your day to check up on my posts. I have heard a lot of positive feedback and it makes me feel fantastic to know how many people are supportive of what I am doing. Together we can ensure 2014 will make The Pursuit of Betterment explode. I’d love to see this get huge!
For the past few days, I’ve been thinking hard about what my next post was going to be about. I had a bunch of concepts floating around in my head, but only one in particular kept popping up and that was the topic of living with regret. On several occasions and among a handful of friends, the conversations we had kept ending up going towards the topic of regret. Whether or not this was a subconscious thing that I did, I’m not sure, but I do have plenty of buddies who aren’t afraid to get real.
I used to be one of those people who attempted to follow the ever popular “no regrets” lifestyle. It was very hard because, though most of my life I have done everything by the book, there have been a handful of choices I have made and actions I have taken that have proven to negatively effect both myself and others around me. Sure, there have been other not-so-bad mistakes that ultimately did not altar my timeline or hurt anyone else that is more than acceptable to shake off, but everyone has those few (or more, for some of us) mistakes that are too heavy to not regret.
Recently I came across an article (or a video, I sadly cannot remember) that very briefly mentioned regret and how you would have to be a jerk to not regret some things. I feel that is definitely true! I’ve hurt people, betrayed their trust and have lost friendships… there’s no way I’m going to just toss those decisions in the “I don’t care, it made me who I am today” bin. While I have already discussed the importance of not dwelling on the past, it’s always beneficial to remember the mistakes you made so that history does not repeat itself.
I feel like many of the people who are living the “no regrets” lifestyle are looking for an excuse for their behavior, rather than standing up, being a good person and admitting fault. It could be that they have never made a mistake of that caliber but we are all human, right? Who am I kidding, we are living in the generation of YOLO (though thankfully, that seems to be fading) where we seem to have skewed the meaning from “live life to it’s fullest” to “Let’s do dumb things because we’re young and we can, and it’s okay because Drake”
Regret is a perfectly natural response to our mistakes in life and no one is immune from it. Be a better person and admit when you do something wrong, and make your decisions wisely, with both yours and others well beings in mind. Opportunities hit you all the time in life, and some are so strong you know they’re life-altering the moment you’re faced with the choice to go through with it or not… but that is tomorrows post.